Many books have came out to help parents to become good parents or the very least to achieve that good-enough parenting level, in order to face the challenges of raising children.
One thing for sure though, nobody is perfect however a parent try, and it may just be a myth to strive to become a super or the ultimate parent to a child. Since we want our children to have the very best in life, even if we strive to be just enough parent there are things that we can do and attitudes to adopt that will make our children more than just average and at the same time make our lives fulfilling and easier at the same time.
Your number one guideline as a parent is to realize that you are but human who cannot perform everything, cannot be everywhere at the same time, cannot know everything under the sun, and that you will also commit mistakes. Parents have their own issues, problems and hang-ups, and the key to this imperfection is to have the right attitude. Among the right attitude to adopt is to be humble, to forgive yourself for your mistakes, to celebrate for the successes you made, to learn from the past, and to focus your sight in moving forward.
Another advice in parenting is to realize that you are only playing a certain percentage of the whole life of your child. You are not the only factor in the upbringing of your child because there are outside variables that surround them when they are out of your sight, from influences of friends, teachers, television, magazines, social media, internet, and so on.
We should realize as parents that our children are not the only things that matter in our lives, and so when making decisions, the whole impact on the family as a whole is to be considered.
Looking at the positive sides of your children, like understanding that they too can commit mistakes, is one pointer in parenting. Forgiving them fast, correcting them gently and move on, and recognizing the things they did right than the wrong, are some parenting attitudes.
If a parent believes in himself or herself, it is a good attitude to make children behave since you are sticking to your guns as the phrase goes. Our children will sometimes challenge our decisions about them, and so in these instances, if it is what is right for them, do not be swayed and do not be hesitant to say no. It would happen that parents make bad decision, but being able to believe in yourself, making decisions and dealing with life’s adversities will give them good example.